Suggested Reading List


Ready to Heal: Women Facing Sex, Love and Relationship Addictions
By Kelly McDaniel

Is It Love or Is It Addiction?
By Brenda Schaeffer

Addiction to Love: Overcoming Obsession and Dependency in Relationships
By Susan Peabody

Women, Sex, and Addiction: A Search for Love and Power
By Charlotte Kasl

Lust, Anger, Love: Understanding Sexual Addiction and the Road to Healthy Intimacy
By Maureen Canning

Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men
By Robert Weiss

Untangling the Web: Sex, Porn, and Fantasy Obsession in the Internet Age
By Robert Weiss

Books by Pia Melody
            Facing Love Addiction:  Giving Yourself the Power to Change the Way You Love
            Facing Codependence: What it is, Where it Comes From, How it Sabotages Our Lives
            The Intimacy Factor: The Ground Rules for Overcoming the Obstacles to Truth,
            Respect, and Lasting Love

Books by Patrick Carnes on Sex Addiction
            Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction
            Facing the Shadow (workbook): Starting Sexual and Relationship Recovery
            In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free of Online Compulsive Sexual Behavior
            A Gentle Path Through the 12 Steps: A Guide for People in Any Recovery



Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How partners can cope and heal
by Barbara Steffens & Marsha Means

Back from Betrayal: Saving a Marriage, a Family, a Life
By Suzy Farbman

Mending a Shattered Heart: A Guide for Sex Addicts
Stephanie Carnes, Rob Weiss, Omar Minwalla, Jennifer Schneider

Don’t Call it Love: Recovery from Sexual Addiction
By Patrick Carnes

Allies in Healing: When the Person You Love Was Sexually Abused as a Child
By Laura Davis



The Intimacy Factor: The Ground Rules for Overcoming the Obstacles to Truth, Respect, and Lasting Love
By Pia Melody

A Passionate Marriage: Love, Sex, and Intimacy in Emotionally Committed Relationships
By David Schnarch

Resurrecting Sex: Solving Sexual Problems and Revolutionizing Your Relationship
By David Schnarch

Intimacy and Desire:  Awaken the Passion in Your Relationship
By David Schnarch

The Elusive Orgasm: A Woman’s Guide to Why She Can’t and How She Can Orgasm
by Vivienne Cass, PhD

Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot, Healthy Sex While in Recovery for Sex Addiction
By Alexandra Katehakis

Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic
By Esther Perel

Love and War in Intimate Relationships: Connection, Disconnection, and Mutual Regulation in Couples
By Marion Solomon & Stan Tatkin

For Women Only: A Revolutionary Guide to Reclaiming Your Sex Life
by Jennifer Berman, M.D. and Laura Berman, Ph.D.

Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love
by Sue Johnson

Lean on Me: The Power of Positive Dependency in Intimate Relationships
by Marion Fried Solomon

Reclaiming Goddess Sexuality
By Linda Savage

The Pleasure Zone: Why we Resist Good Feeling and How to Let Go and Be Happy
By Stella Resnick and Riane Eisler

Why We Love:  The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love
By Helen Fisher

Sex on the Brain: 12 Lessons to Enhance Your Love Life
By Daniel Amen

A General Theory of Love
by Thomas Lewis

When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times
By Pema Chodron

Books by Lou Paget
            How to be a Great Lover: Girlfriend to Girlfriend-Techniques to Blow His Mind
            Orgasms: How to Have Them, Give Them, and Keep Them Coming
            How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure: Explicit Techniques Every Woman Wants Her Man To Know
            The Great Lover Playbook: 365 Sexual Tips and Techniques to Keep the Fire Burning

Books by Ian Kerner:
            She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman
            Sex Recharge: A Rejuvenation Plan for Couples and Singles
            Be Honest, You’re Not That Into Him Either
            Love in the Time of Colic: The New Parents Guide to Getting it On Again


Books by Suze Orman:
            Women and Money: Owning the Power to Control Your Destiny
            The Money Book for the Young, Fabulous, and Broke
            The 9 Steps to Financial Freedom
            The Laws of Money: Timeless Secrets to Get Out and Stay Out of Trouble

How to Get Out of Debt, Stay Out of Debt, and Live Prosperously
by Jerrold Mundis

Rich Dad, Poor Dad: What the Rich Teach Their Kids About Money-That the Poor and Middle Class Don’t
by Robert T. Kiyosaki and Sharon L. Lechter

The Total Money Makeover: A Proven Plan for Financial Fitness
by Dave Ramsey


The Rules of “Normal” Eating: A Commonsense Approach for Dieters, Overeaters, Undereaters, Emotional Eaters, and Everyone in Between!
by Karen Koenig

Anatomy of a Food Addiction
by Anne Katherine

Breaking Free From Emotional Eating
by Geneen Roth

Gaining: The Truth About Life After Eating Disorders
by Aimee Liu

Life Without ED: How One Woman Declared Independence from Her Eating Disorder and How You Can, Too.
by Jenni Shaeffer

The Eating Disorder Sourcebook: A Comprehensive Guide to the Causes, Treatment, and Prevention of Eating Disorders
by Carolyn Costin




Books by Claudia Black
It Will Never Happen to Me: Growing Up With Addiction as Youngsters, Adolescents, and Adults
Changing Course: Healing from Loss, Abandonement, and Fear
Deceived: Facing Sexual Betrayal, Lies, and Secrets
Straight Talk: What Recovering Parents Should Tell Their Kids About Drugs and Alcohol
Repeat After Me (How to heal and let go)

Books by Janet Woititz
Adult Children of Alcoholics
The Intimacy Struggle
The Self Sabotage Syndrome: Adult Children in the Workplace
The Complete ACOA Sourcebook: Adult Children At Home, At Work, and In Love

Chained to the Desk: A Guidebook for Workaholics, Their Partners, and Children
by Bryan Robinson

The Man Who Mistook His Job for a Life: A Chronic Overachiever Finds His Way Home
by Jonathon Lazear

Cutting: Understanding and Overcoming Self-Mutilation
by Steven Levenkron

To Buy or Not To Buy: Why We Overshop and How To Stop
by April Lane Benson

I Shop Therefore I am: Compulsive Buying and the Search for Self
by April Lane Benson

Bought Out and Spent!: Recovery from Compulsive Shopping and Spending
by Terrence Shulman

Spent: Break the Buying Obsession and Discover Your True Worth
by Sally Palain





Autobiography of a Yogi
By Paramahansa Yogananda

The Four Agreements
By Don Miguel Ruiz

Wherever You Go, There You Are
By Jon Kabbat Zin

The Seat of the Soul
By Gary Zukav

The Spirituality of Imperfection: Storytelling and the Search for Meaning
By Earnest Kurtz and Katherine Ketchum

Man’s Search for Meaning
By Viktor Frankl

Tao Te Ching
By Lao Tzu

The Alchemist
By Paulo Cohelo

The Power of Now
By Eckhart Tolle

How to See Yourself as You Really Are
By His Holiness the Dalai Lama

The Circle of Fire: The Metaphysics of Yoga
By P.J. Mazumdar

The Miracle of Mindfulness
By Thich Nhat Hahn



The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the one-way relationship in work, love, and family
by Eleanor Payson

I Don't Want to Talk About it: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression
by Terrance Real

Silently Seduced: When Parents Make their Children Partners-Understanding Covert Incest
By Kenneth Adams

The Betrayal Bond: Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships
By Patrick Carnes

Healing the Shame That Binds You
By John Bradshaw

The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse
By Wendy Maltz

The Courage to Heal Workbook: For Women and Men Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse
By Laura Davis

When I Say No I Feel Guilty
By Manuel J. Smith

Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self
By Alice Miller


You Can Heal Your Life
by Louise L. Hay

Oh, The Places You Will Go!
By Dr. Suess

The Female Brain
By Louann Brizendine

The Male Brain
By Louann Brizedine

The Six Pillars of Self Esteem
By Nathanial Branden

365 Tao
by Deng Ming-Dao

Boundaries: Where You End and I Begin
By Anne Katherine

Stumbling On Happiness
By Daniel Gilbert

Change Your Brain, Change Your Life: Breakthrough Program for Conquering Anxiety, Depression, Obsessiveness, Anger, and Impulsiveness
By Daniel Amen, M.D.

By Carol Dweck